Steve Harvey’s “Moral Barometer” is broken.

Everyone deserves a second chance. And I gave one to Steve Harvey. He mocked people with disabilities in 2015. I was angry and I posted about it (below). Brian loves Little Big Shots and I let him continue to watch it. Steve Harvey partners with Ellen on a lot of things and she is all about inclusion. I figured he had changed his ways.

I was wrong.

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He is now defending the indefensible.

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His wife used the R word. And then he defended it. Not “Hey, I’m sorry, won’t happen again.”

Nope, instead he put it on others, who be “trippin.” Fuck you.

You can get the full story here.

Steve Harvey is not funny.

That’s it. Time’s up. No more.

Don’t watch any of his shows. Don’t listen to him on the radio. Tell all of his partners and supporters that you are not watching him anymore. You can find a list of Steve Harvey’s sponsors here.

Steve Harvey is annoying.

Mocks people with disabilities, Post from April of 2015

So do you watch or listen to Steve Harvey? Honestly, up until about the holidays, I was occasionally watching him as he comes on here during the day, and during the day I often keep the tv on for noise when I’m alone. He was just doing too many dating shows and my dating days are long behind me, so I lost interest. Then I read an article where he was criticizing atheists. From that point on, I was done. Mind you, atheists are some of the most loathed and feared people in the world, but I’m used to being misunderstood about it. However, he said that atheists don’t have a “moral barometer.” That part really insults me. That is the anti-atheist sentiment I hate the most. And, really…is the church the only thing that keeps you from going on a big crime bender? I doubt it. If it is, maybe you should check your own moral barometer.

Oh, sweet hypocrisy….seems that Steve Harvey, who is known for judging others, telling guys to “man up” and to be a leader and a role model, needs a little reminder of what that means.

Now mind you, this most recent incident would have slipped past me, had I not seen a video in my Facebook feed. I never have listened to the Steve Harvey radio show, but apparently, recently he was making fun of individuals with disabilities. The woman’s video brought me to tears for several reasons. She is similarly situated…as far as our parenting status. But this one struck me particularly hard today.

{Blog Owner’s Note: I have removed the video. The reason? Right after she “went viral” for posting the video she decided to start a blog. A blog that has a name that is really similar to mine. Coincidence? Perhaps. But I did comment on her video and shared it, so I’m pretty sure she saw my site name.}

Yes, Steve Harvey, sometimes my son grunts.

Why her video really got to me: This morning my in-laws left our home after a 10-day visit. They departed early, before dawn, for the airport. I was laying in bed, listening. And I had no plans to get up. I had said my goodbyes last night. But I heard Kevin up. He was standing at his baby gate. And he was grunting. I was so happy!

Kevin does not talk and does not have much functional communication. These grunts are new for him. But I understood them–he heard his Dad and his Mom-mom out in the kitchen, and, trapped by the baby gate, he wanted to get their attention. He cannot talk, so he was grunting. And it worked. They heard him and came and got him and she got to spend a few last minutes hugging and snuggling him before she had a plane to catch.

So fuck you, Steve Harvey, making fun of people who grunt. Seriously, just I now understood her video more than ever…why she had to record it 4x to erase profanities. I’m not re-writing this 4x. My moral compass is fine….looks like yours needs a tune up though. My grunting, bubble blowing son is 10x the man you will ever hope to be. You are the lowest of the low, making fun of (and continuing to do so) people who have no voice, who are unable to fight back.

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I think it’s time for you to step down from that pedestal of yours, the one where you sit and judge and lecture others on how to live proper. It’s time for you to live proper. Why don’t you man up and apologize? To think that you give advice on “How to act like a success.” Is this how you define success? I don’t. Even after the atheist comments, I gave you somewhat of a pass, because of your mentoring programs that I’ve seen on TV. What exactly are you mentoring, if you are the role model?

Steve Harvey Memes

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As a side note, according to his own Facebook page, he is hosting a Q&A chat on the page, on Wednesday, April 8. It’s about Love…how fitting. Love. I have a few questions I’d like to ask him.

Here is the actual radio show, about a minute in, he talks about her being “32 years old and the mind of a 3 year old”:

Author update: I want to thank everyone who has read and/or commented on this post in the past day or so. I wanted to answer some of the questions/comments directed to me about my opinions, particularly those listed on Facebook where this is posted.

Steve Harvey did not apologize.

First, the “eh, who cares, it’s just comedy?” Obviously, I whole-heartedly disagree, that is the whole point of this post. I don’t see how, at any point, you will get me to agree that it’s ok “even in the name of a comedy bit” to reinforce the stereotype that my son and other kids like him are nothing more than annoying, disruptive, grunting, drooling and bubble-blowing idiots. This stereotype is particularly harmful as there are already enough people in society who do not value our children and the value that they have.

Second, the “who cares? It’s just Steve Harvey? Who is he, anyway?” I get it, sort of. However, this is a man who has positioned himself as a valuable mentor to youth, as well as a role model to others as to how to be successful in society. For the society that I live in, I do not want actions like this held up as the model.

Updated again 4/9: Someone told me that he had in fact apologized. So I looked for it and found it. Meh. He passes the buck and and it’s half-hearted at best. It reeks of “get over it” to me. And “all comedy offends.” Actually, I was just reminded yesterday that this is not true. I watched Amy Schumer on the Ellen show and was doubled over in laughter…and not once did she pick on anyone but herself. It is possible to be funny and not offend others.

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I still stand by my original sentiments. I think that Autism with a side of fries summed it up best:

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And like Atypical Familia said, it doesn’t make it ok.

Before you leave a comment:

  • I am adult and will use the F word if I want to. You don’t need to admonish me on it, thanks. Feel free to not come back if that offends you so much.
  • You also don’t need to lecture me on “who cares what he says” or “if you don’t like what he says, don’t listen.” Here’s the irony–if you’re telling me not to be bothered by what he says, then you shouldn’t be bothered by what I say. If you don’t like what I have to say, DON’T READ IT.

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