Should you record your IEP meeting?
Should you (audio) record your IEP meeting? It’s a question that I’ve seen parents and advocates discuss quite a bit. And like all the other parts of the IEP, there are no easy answers to the question. In deciding whether or not to record your child’s IEP meeting, there are many different things to consider. Here is a list of some of them, as I asked around in the Facebook group and my advocate friends. Some of their answer surprised me and some changed my mind a bit. Prior to doing this post, I was pretty much on Team No, don’t record. I’m still on Team No, but now it’s more of Team No, but…..there are always exceptions.
Should parents record an IEP meeting?
There are two main things to consider when deciding to record your IEP meeting, as far as negative repercussions. One is breaking the law and the other is throwing a wet blanket over your relationship with your district personnel. The benefit of course is that you will have everything that is said during the meeting to review at a later time.
Check recording laws and policies. This is important. Different states have different laws regarding recording others. In some states, all parties must agree or you cannot do it. In other states, you don’t even have to inform the other parties that they are being recorded. It varies. Also, your school district may have it’s own written policies about recording meetings and other school happenings. Yes, policies can be overridden and a state law overrides a district policy, but you still want to be prepared for anything the day you walk in with the recorder.
You can check out the recording laws here:
My friends Sandra and Judi summed it up very well for me, as far as needing to record an IEP meeting as an accommodation:
YES!!! it was so hard BEFORE my stroke to remember what is going on in the meeting, what was said, and then attempting to prove it later. I asked for accommodation ahead of time. Unless there are three people at the meeting, the parent, the advocate, AND a note taker, I think recording is imperative. There is so much emotion involved in an IEP meeting, on both sides of the table. I have found since recording I can concentrate better on what people are saying in real time, because I’m not rushing to commit it to memory in case I forget later, and I agree with Judi that it can alter the atmosphere, but for me, in a good way, because people have been nicer in word and tone. Whatever benefit you are risking by recording I think pales in comparison to the benefit you are gaining.~Sandra
Some of the points that were made at meetings in my school district as they were developing their policy was how difficult it is to both take notes and fully participate in a discussion. It doesn’t matter if you have a ‘disability’ that you’re dealing with or not. If you’re not practiced at doing this I feel you’re at a disadvantage – and parents don’t go to as many IEP meetings so they don’t have the practice with this skill set that school district personnel get.~Judi
Ask yourself why you want to record the meeting. This is pretty simple. Why do you want to record the meeting? Do you struggle with concentrating on the meeting and fully participating and note-taking all at the same time? Lots of people do. It’s an overwhelming process for parents. Has your school district backpedaled before, promising you items during a meeting but then disagreeing later they agreed to the item? Are they rude, hostile and condescending to you during the meeting and you want proof or hope that they will be civil if you record? Do you need to record the meeting as an accommodation?
What do you hope to gain by taping? Maybe your team really is hostile and nasty to you. That’s certainly not unheard of, and I’ve seen it myself. In that case, recording might help. Another common parent issue is that you want to ask your district for something big (new placement, 1:1 para and so on) and you anticipate them saying “no” so you want to have it on tape. Or, you think that maybe you’ll better your chances of them saying “yes” because you have them on tape. It’s not.
And what is that going to serve? Are you going to transcribe the entire tape and have it entered in the child’s record? Then why do it? As an advocate, I think your time is better spent getting the data you need to show that your child needs whatever it is you are requesting, especially if your relationship with your district is decent.
Know that many people will view recording an IEP meeting as a hostile act. Put yourself in their shoes for a moment. You think you’re doing a good job. You like your students, you think you are serving them well. Then one day Mom walks in and says, “I’m going to be recording this IEP meeting, k?” It’s normal to feel defensive and taken aback. Administrators often see this as a hostile act and that you are trying to catch them doing something wrong (and you might be). But I wouldn’t be doing my readers justice if I didn’t tell you this. Not everyone thinks this is a great idea, so don’t expect to be greeted with warm welcoming smiles after you announce this.
My relationship with my school district can’t possibly get any worse. I’ve been to IEP meetings where people screamed at each other, shoved chairs and left the room in tears (and it wasn’t the parents!). I have been in situations where the relationship with the district really couldn’t get much worse. If you have reasons why you want to record the meeting and you don’t have a relationship at risk, go for it.
It might make it better, as it did for Karin:
I’ve had to record several meetings over the years in my school district- it was THEIR behavior which greatly altered the atmosphere of these meetings, which resulted in me taping at follow- up and/or “to be continued” meetings. The taping was extremely beneficial in each circumstance- not only did school staff behave appropriately and professionally but the meetings were productive.~Karin
So it may actually help the situation!
In any event, if you do decide to record your IEP meeting, notify the district when you RSVP to the meeting. At that time, you’ll be asked if you need any accommodations. This would be a good time.
More IEP advice for parents:
This post was originally published in 2015 but was recently updated. As always, this is meant as advice and guidance and not legal advice.