I recently had the opportunity to receive a preview copy of this book-Teaching Kids to Think: Raising confident, independent and thoughtful children in an age of instant gratification. I was very intrigued by the title as I often find myself very frustrated with my parenting peers. Sometimes I really find myself scratching my head and saying, “How did we get here? We weren’t raised like this!” My own youngest son is turning 6 soon, and I find myself often reflecting on my own childhood at age 5 and 6. And, I was much more independent and had many more skills than he does. Yet, I’m trying my best!
When I first became pregnant, I was introduced to the term of ‘helicopter parent.’ I knew that is not what I wanted for myself and I have tried to consciously lean more towards a free range philosophy.
Here is the official synopsis of the book:
Why Do Kids These Days Expect Everything to be Given to Them?
Today’s kids don’t know how to read a map. They can Google the answer to any question at lightning speed. If a teen forgets his homework, a quick call to mom or dad has it hand-delivered in minutes. Fueled by the rapid pace of technology, the Instant Gratification Generation not only expects immediate solutions to problems—they’re more dependent than ever on adults. Today’s kids are being denied opportunities to make mistakes, and more importantly, to learn from them. They are being taught not to think.
In Teaching Kids to Think, Dr. Darlene Sweetland and Dr. Ron Stolberg offer insight into the social, emotional, and neurological challenges unique to this generation. They identify the five parent traps that cause adults to unknowingly increase their children’s need for instant gratification, and offer practical tips and easy-to-implement solutions to address topics relevant to children of all ages.
A must-read for parents and educators, Teaching Kids to Think will help you understand where this sense of entitlement comes from—and how to turn it around in order to raise children who are confident, independent, and thoughtful.
I loved this book because I felt validated while reading it. Like I said, some of the things I hear acquaintances say and do, what they post on Facebook, it just doesn’t jive with how we were raised. As a society of parents, we have become terrible at evaluating what is really a risk to our kids and our kids are suffering for it. Gone are the days when kids roamed the neighborhood playing with friends. Now, everything is arranged. It’s always a play date or an organized activity. In the process our kids are losing decision making skills, problem solving skills, and conflict resolution (because there’s always a parent ready to step in and settle arguments!). You hear all kinds of crazy stories, from parents calling college professors to complain about grades or calling the SAT administrator to try to get scores changed. As this book points out, we are so focused on the end result we forget what value their is in the process.
We’ve become very unforgiving as a society to people who make mistakes. Or, we forgive celebrities for domestic abuse and sex tapes by continuing to buy their products, but we do not forgive a government official who embellishes a story to try to find camaraderie while speaking with a homeless person. So upside down! I don’t understand why so many of today’s parents are afraid to set boundaries and afraid to say no. I know that saying yes gets you through the moment, but the long term repercussions….too many just don’t think of that.
Anyway, this book is a great read and an easy read. I love books that are great in sequential order, but you can also go back and just reread a chapter. It talks about technology and how to better monitor usage, video games, and what happens when we step in too often and solve our kids’ problems. It’s a great book to buy for yourself or as a gift.
Below is the giveaway and you can win a copy. Also, the authors will be publishing a guest post on this site in the coming weeks, so stay tuned.
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