The Most Wonderful Time of the Year!
I just love this time of year, don’t year? And having kids has made it so much better.
Being a disability parent certainly has its ups and downs. I try to maintain a positive outlook and “glass half full” mentality about the whole thing, and I think that has paid off. After all, one of my mantras is “focus on what you can control.” And, most of the aspects of my son’s disability are out of my control. So why fret it or cry over it again and again? Not very productive.
Why I love the Holidays
Buying over a dozen holiday gifts: Today I am sitting down with our holiday shopping organizer and organizing and wrapping all the gifts for his team members. It’s well over a dozen people when you count in teachers, assistants, therapists, van people, behavior and so on. The first year or two that I started doing this, I was overwhelmed. Now, I budget for it and just enjoy it. I am so grateful that I have so many people, people who truly love Kevin and are trying to help him be the best he can be. I am so thankful that we have so many wonderful people in our life who are making a difference.
Enjoying every moment: Most special needs parents will tell you, we don’t take anything for granted. Every new milestone (or inch-stone!) is celebrated. We revel in every moment with our kids and our families. The holidays only make this better!
I get to stay home from parties: The holidays can be an overwhelming time with social commitments. We slow down, take it easy…say no….and people understand. My husband and I are introverts by nature and don’t care for parties. Crowds, noise, and changes in routine are a bit much for Kevin. And us! So I like having a legit reason to say no, rather than feel obligated.
I get to share him and educate others: Sure, we stay home from parties, but at this time of year we also attend more social events than usual. If you ask me questions, I will give you honest answers. I love having this time of year with family and friends because it gives me a chance to show him off for what a great kid he is. And help you better understand the {different} world we live in.
Time passes slowly: When your child has developmental delays, it certainly can be frustrating at times. But, today as I picked up a new gift he got, I smiled to myself. I get to enjoy some of these things longer than regular parents, and that’s not all bad. Glass half full.
It’s the most wonderful time of the year: It really is. It just brings out the best in everyone. Today as I was getting my younger son ready for school, he said, “Mom, I made a Christmas card for Kevin and I’m going to give it to him on Christmas.” Made my heart swoon. And it’s just one example of the many wonderful things that happen this year.
I hope everyone is having a fantastic holiday season!
{this was originally published in 2014 but updated and republished}