The most valuable thing you are going to learn on this site–how to not stress over your annual IEP meeting. No, really, I mean it.
IEP meetings and the stress and drama surrounding them are a construct. And we can break it down, and rebuild a new one. A different one. An annual IEP meeting that is a collaboration, not a battle.
Here is some information to get you started down the right path with your IEP meeting.
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