The most valuable thing you are going to learn on this site–how to not stress over your annual IEP meeting. No, really, I mean it.

IEP meetings and the stress and drama surrounding them are a construct. And we can break it down, and rebuild a new one. A different one. An annual IEP meeting that is a collaboration, not a battle.



Can a Parent Record an IEP Meeting? | Recording Laws for 50 States
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Can a Parent Record an IEP Meeting? | Recording Laws for 50 States

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Recording School IEP Meetings Can you (audio) record your IEP meeting? It’s a question that I’ve seen parents
Who is Required to attend an IEP meeting? Can I exclude people?
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Who is Required to attend an IEP meeting? Can I exclude people?

By April 26, 2020 0
Who Attends IEP Meetings I have a friend and there are 18 school staff people, and her, at her IEP meetings.
What happens after an IEP Meeting? And what to do next.
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What happens after an IEP Meeting? And what to do next.

By February 25, 2020 0
AFTER the IEP Meeting It seems that many parents anticipate and prepare for an IEP meeting and then that’s
Why More Parents Should Consider Facilitated IEP Meetings.
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Why More Parents Should Consider Facilitated IEP Meetings.

By February 1, 2020 0
Facilitated IEP Meetings My very first experience with a facilitated IEP meeting was not a good one. Things were very
Why IEP Parents Should Never Agree to the “Let’s just Wait and See.”
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Why IEP Parents Should Never Agree to the “Let’s just Wait and See.”

By January 21, 2020 0
Let’s Just Wait and See. I’d be willing to be my house and my car that 99% of all
How to Not Cry at your IEP Meeting.
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How to Not Cry at your IEP Meeting.

By January 18, 2020 0
How to Not Cry at your IEP Meeting. Is it any wonder that Moms cry at IEP Meetings? Pretend I’
Dear IEP Team: Don’t Call Me Mom.
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Dear IEP Team: Don’t Call Me Mom.

By November 25, 2019 0
IEP Mom “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt (supposedly) History (and Google Analytics) tells
IEP Meeting Checklist for Parents | Be Prepared and Confident!
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IEP Meeting Checklist for Parents | Be Prepared and Confident!

By November 7, 2019 0
IEP Preparation Checklist As an advocate, I have attended literally hundreds of IEP meetings. I know you, Moms. You’re
How Long should an IEP Meeting be?
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How Long should an IEP Meeting be?

By October 24, 2019 0
What is the Length of Time for an Average IEP Meeting? How long is an IEP meeting? How long should
Yes, the IEP Meeting MUST be held at a time convenient for parents.
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Yes, the IEP Meeting MUST be held at a time convenient for parents.

By October 11, 2019 0
What does IDEA say about parents attending IEP meetings? Whew, can we please put this issue to bed, once and
When should I receive a Draft Copy of the IEP or Evaluations?
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When should I receive a Draft Copy of the IEP or Evaluations?

By October 4, 2019 0
Draft IEP Timelines “Well, Mrs. Lightner, we are not going to be making any changes to this IEP today.” Oh
7 Real-Life Examples of Misogyny at IEP Meetings.
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7 Real-Life Examples of Misogyny at IEP Meetings.

By October 2, 2019 0
The misogyny of IEP meetings. I receive a surprising amount of criticism for catering to women on this blog. Or,
If I request an IEP meeting, how long does the school have to respond?
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If I request an IEP meeting, how long does the school have to respond?

By September 12, 2019 0
Parent Request for IEP Meeting Timelines IDEA does not define this. Some state special education regulations have set a time
7 Things you Never Want to Hear at an IEP Meeting.
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7 Things you Never Want to Hear at an IEP Meeting.

By August 14, 2019 0
Be on Alert for these phrases at your IEP Meeting. You’re sitting in your IEP meeting. Things seem to
How to Rock your First IEP Meeting.
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How to Rock your First IEP Meeting.

By August 13, 2019 0
IEP Meeting Dos and Don’ts My first IEP meeting did not go well. Well, wait. Kevin has been receiving
What is the LEA in Special Education?
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What is the LEA in Special Education?

By May 28, 2019 0
What is an LEA? The LEA is a largely misunderstood position or role at IEP meetings. Many times, parents want
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50 Common IEP Meeting Questions

By May 1, 2019 0
IEP Meeting Questions Over the past decade, I have attended hundreds of IEP meetings and met with hundreds of families.
How to Improve your IEP Meetings.
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How to Improve your IEP Meetings.

By March 25, 2019 0
IEP Meetings This is a really old post that I have been meaning to update for ages. I see the
My IEP Meeting is tomorrow!
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My IEP Meeting is tomorrow!

By March 21, 2019 0
When your IEP Meeting is Tomorrow This was in an email I opened this morning: “Hi! I have my IEP
These 6 Principles of IDEA must be applied at every IEP meeting.
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These 6 Principles of IDEA must be applied at every IEP meeting.

By February 28, 2019 0
6 Principles of Special Education I have to open this post with a shout out to blog reader Mike T. He
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How and When to Request an IEP Meeting.

By February 12, 2019 0
How and When to Request an IEP Meeting This one should be filed under “blog posts I never thought I’
How to avoid IEP Meeting Negativity.
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How to avoid IEP Meeting Negativity.

By January 30, 2019 0
Avoid falling into the hole of IEP negativity. Recently there was a lively discussion in our Facebook group. A teacher
The Secret that will have you Stop Stressing over IEP Meetings. Yes, really.
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The Secret that will have you Stop Stressing over IEP Meetings. Yes, really.

By October 30, 2018 0
How to Stop Stressing over IEP Meetings. I was waiting in the lobby. Mom pulled into the parking lot, made
Are you being gaslighted at IEP meetings? {spoiler alert: probably!}
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Are you being gaslighted at IEP meetings? {spoiler alert: probably!}

By October 29, 2018 0
Gaslighting. I remember the first time I was gaslighted at an IEP meeting. It probably wasn’t the first time,
What to wear to an IEP meeting. Because, yes, it matters.
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What to wear to an IEP meeting. Because, yes, it matters.

By August 18, 2018 0
Does it matter what you wear to an IEP meeting? Yes. “I have an IEP meeting tomorrow, should I dress
Should I bring food to the IEP meeting?
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Should I bring food to the IEP meeting?

By June 28, 2018 4
Should I bring food to the IEP meeting? I understand you want to be nice. You want to be the “