More often than I would like, a parent in our Facebook group asks, “My child was restrained today…what can I do?” Or a variety of that concern.
And, more often than should happen….well intended but misinformed parents pipe up, “They can’t do that! That’s illegal!”
Sadly, it’s not. In many states, it is still perfectly legal to restrain and seclude out kids. I could tell you stories that would curl your hair. But, let’s remain calm, at least for the length of this blog post. Let’s remain calm and plan out exactly what we can do to educate ourselves about restraint and seclusion, and have a plan of action. So here is “what IEP parents need to know about restraint and seclusion.”
what IEP parents need to know about restraint and seclusion
It’s not illegal. It varies by state. Some states have addressed it thoroughly, others have not. But the blanket “It’s illegal!” is not a correct statement. I wish! Here are two great resources for you about restraint and seclusion for all 50 states. The Dept of Ed list is quite thorough. The Wrightslaw one is just an overview. In any event, make sure that you read up on your state’s laws and guidelines. And remember, there is a difference between a law, guideline and policy.
Restraint and seclusion can look very different. It’s not always the textbook, stereotypical image of a school resource officer tackling a kid, and holding him down and then handcuffing and shackling him. Sadly, sometimes it is that dramatic. I had a child one time (client) and he was kept in a Rifton chair, all day, every day. With the tray attached in front of him, of course. It was beyond his skill level to free himself, and they were doing it to keep him in one spot. That’s restraint. It doesn’t have to be a locked room–if a staff person is standing in the doorway preventing the child from leaving the room, that’s seclusion too. It also can be your child being asked to remain in the classroom while the rest of the group goes to recess or a special. The USDOE also has a handy booklet that defines the different kinds of restraints and seclusion, as well as outlining some best practices.
It will be called many different things. Very rarely does a parent get the call, “We had to put your child in the seclusion room today.” There are dozens and dozens of names for it. Not sure why they don’t just call a spade a spade, other that to try to gaslight themselves into thinking they do not use restraint and seclusion. It might be called a quiet room. A restoration room. A calm down room. The thinking room. It’s still a wolf in sheep’s clothing, your child was secluded.
“Every child deserves to be treated with dignity,
be free from abuse,
and treated as a unique individual
with individual needs, strengths and circumstances.”
US Department of Education booklet, 2012.
It needs to be eliminated. It’s on its way out, but we are not there yet. But what we do know is that it is harmful to the child, often both physically and psychologically. And, surprise, surprise….it doesn’t work!
It unfairly targets disabilities and minorities. I’m not going to quote and link a whole bunch of different studies like I usually do….but much like other disciplinary policies and procedures, despite making up a small number of the student population, children who are disabled and/or minorities represent a disproportionate number of children that are the victims of restraint and seclusion.
So, what can parents do about Restraint and Seclusion?
Be proactive. One of the things that makes me really dislike R&S is that it is so reactive. Not proactive at all! “Let’s not give the kid supports, let’s just lock ‘him up when he acts out!” But you as the parent can be proactive.
- Read your state’s policy and laws on this, linked above.
- Now, go to your school’s site and read your school policy on it. Can’t find it? Email the Special Ed director and ask for it.
- Get it in the IEP. Ask for FBA, behavior plan and crisis/de-escalation plan. If segregating your child and locking him/her in an empty room is only going to amp them up….why in the world would you do that? But it happens! So put it in the IEP that you do not want restraints and seclusion used on your child and list several alternatives. Put it in Parent Concerns. Yes, they can do this. None of this “Oh we can’t do that” or “We don’t do that here.”
- Stay in open, honest communication with your child’s team.
- If it does happen, document everything immediately, as far as what you know and what your child told you. As part of your school’s policy, they should have some reporting mechanism, ask for a copy.
- Here are some tips on what to include in your letter to the school.
Be active with other parents. Attend school board meetings. Keep giving them the data, especially from the Dept of Ed. Ask for it to be changed. Ask that your district move over to a restorative justice disciplinary system. Create change!
Meet with people who can create change. Call the Department of Ed. Tell them, “Hey, I read your booklets….however at my school, this is happening, what can I do?” File OCR complaints if you feel your child has been discriminated against. Ask to meet with your school board representative.
I can tell you this–unless parents demand it, nothing is going to change.
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Edited to add: Many of you have taken the time to write to me, disagreeing with my opinion. Most of you brought up the issue of the safety of other students in the classroom. That’s a very valid point. But I still stand by my opinion and my assertion that restraint and seclusion be considered LAST when dealing with some difficult students. Currently, imo, in many places, it is considered first, and used too often. No, we cannot have dangerous kids in classrooms, especially if there are students in that classroom who are unable to defend themselves. But locking kids in closets isn’t the answer either, and that is happening. We can keep the students safe without locking some of them in closets. It can be done. Science tells us it’s not effective in behavior management, the Dept of Ed agrees…so why is it so often the ‘go to’ item for many schools? Needs to be looked into and changed.