Sexual Relationship IEP Goals

Sexual relationships are a part of every adult’s life. Whether or not we want to think about it or talk about it, we must.

If you are expecting that your disabled child will live independently, this is something they likely will encounter–sexual urges and the opportunity to act upon them.

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Have to send them out into the world prepared. Sure, it feels weird to put this on an IEP, but non disabled kids get sex ed and we don’t think twice about it.

To make any of these a goal, simply put the skill into the IEP goal formula.

IEP goal formula for special education

Sexual and Family Relationships IEP Goals

If you’re looking for some resources on discussing sexuality with your disabled child, I have a separate post on that.

  1. Understands what sexual, attraction, feelings are, how to appropriately act upon them
  2. Knows resources for birth control. 
  3. Knows the location of family planning office. 
  4. Knows options for birth control.
  5. Knows what “no” means and how to respect it
  6. Understands that if they are in a homosexual or interracial relationship, they may be met with hostility in public, and how to handle that
  7. Knows how pregnancy happens
  8. Knows options for pregnancy.
  9. Knows dangers of drugs, alcohol, and tobacco during pregnancy.
  10. Knows what adequate prenatal care is.
  11. Knows where to obtain prenatal care. 
  12. Knows not to leave child without supervision.
  13. Can provide appropriate supervision for child. 
  14. Is comfortable being alone with child.
  15. Knows how to bathe child and change diapers.
  16. Knows how to access community resources (WIC, PHN).
  17. Knows how to engage a child in appropriate play (reading, singing, drawing, building things, etc.).
  18. Knows the available options for regular childcare.
  19. Selects appropriate people to periodically babysit with the child. 
  20. Knows where to go for help if child is sick.
  21. Can select toys appropriate for child’s age and developmental level.
  22. Can discipline without using extreme measures (hitting, screaming, withholding necessary food or care).
  23. Can make arrangements for regular childcare.
  24. Takes child to childcare on time.
  25. Picks child up from childcare on time.
  26. Spends “quality” time with child each day (talking, playing together, listening to the child, etc.).
  27. Knows where to go for help with parenting.
  28. Knows what behaviors are appropriate for the child’s age and developmental level.
  29. Knows the costs and benefits of each child care arrangement available.