That first glass.
Admit it, it’s deeeee-lightful. It’s why people drink wine. If it wasn’t awesome, sales of non-alcoholic wine would be much higher, right?
I have to say, I don’t miss it. I thought I would but I don’t. I said when I started this project or behavior change, whatever you want to call it…that I am not a days-counter. I’m not wearing coins or medals around my neck to tell you how long I’ve been sober. But I am now about two months out of the Mom Wine Culture.
I only know this because I made this decision right around my dad’s birthday, which was a little over two months ago. Sure, when the urge to drink a glass of wine hits me, I think to myself, “How long has it been?” My head goes back to my dad’s birthday and I estimate from there. Since then, I think I have had wine twice, maybe three times. And the last time sealed the deal because I drank about a glass or glass and a half of wine and never got that feeling. So why bother?
But some surprising things have happened. Some positive, some notsomuch. Here’s a rundown.
Nope, not an alcoholic, but I do think I needed to stop drinking. I highly recommend Almost Alcoholic.
7 Surprising Things that Happened when I Stopped Drinking Wine.
- I gained weight. For now, I blame it on my love of all things fall and apple pastries….fall baking…plus a terrible case of plantar fasciitis which means I’m not walking as much or working out. But my weight has gone up. I’m to rest my foot for three months. After the holidays, I will join the throngs of people at my health club.
- My sons’ behavior got worse before it got better. I had an epiphany. While I was drinking wine to relax at the dinner hour, sometimes my son(s) would misbehave. I think that because of the wine, it didn’t bother me as much as when I am fully sober. For the first week or two, I was thinking, “Why is he being so bad?” It wasn’t his behavior that had changed, it was mine. I was able to turn it around quite quickly, and I don’t think he even noticed that I was stricter than previous.
- People sometimes treat me like a recovering alcoholic. One of the downsides of sharing this story is that everyone knows. So there have been a few times that I’ve been out someplace and offered a drink, and then their eyes get wide. WIDE. “OH, THAT’S RIGHT YOU DON’T DRINK ANYMORE.” It’s fine, really. A quick, “Yes, that is correct, I’m not drinking anymore but thanks for offering.”
- I realize that the Mom-Wine Culture is EVERYWHERE. No, really, it’s everywhere. Or perhaps I’m more aware of it. Or perhaps it’s because this new behavior change happened at the back-to-school time when I’m around more moms. But the Mom-Wine Culture is everywhere–Meet and Greet night (can’t wait to go home and have a glass of wine!), it’s at PTA meetings (we should sell those wine purses!) and joked about at school events (are they serving wine here?). Either I am a new minority, or the Mom-Wine thing is the very vocal minority, but I didn’t realize how much it surrounded me before.
- All the cool kids are doing it. I told you that a Chrissy Teigen article was my catalyst to stopping. Now John Mayer says that he stopped. Granted, he has publicly stated that he replaced it with smoking pot. But ok. It’s trendy to stop drinking, so that might help my 2 issues above.
- I sleep better. I need less sleep and I feel less tired, more rested. It’s wonderful.
- I’m just happier. I’m more productive. More engaged with my kids and my family. More attention paid to my blog, my household. I’ve gone weeks or months without drinking in the past, I’m not sure why this time feels different but it does. Once my foot is healed, they’ll be no stopping me!
I hope that whatever you choose, that it is a constant return on investment.