Stay at Home Date Night Ideas
The other day, I saw my friend and her husband drive down the road. I happened to just know that it was Friday, and Friday is Costco day for them. They have 4 kids, but the older two are 13 and 11, so they watch the younger two. I was incredibly jealous in that moment. It has now been over 2 months since my husband and I have had any alone time, due to the pandemic. Sometimes I just want to have adult conversations or say something that I don’t want young ears to hear.
Since Kevin’s seizure disorder began in 2015, he has always been in the care of one of three people: Me, his dad, his teacher. That’s it. One of us has been with him, in his presence, for over 3 years. So when I hear ‘date night ideas’ I say, “bwhahahahaha……you’re funny!” When you have a medically complex child, you can’t just call the neighborhood teenager over to babysit.
Once my husband and I settled down as a couple, our social lives changed dramatically. We’re introverts and homebodies by nature and we both were eager to leave our wild partying days and late nights out behind us. Still, it would be nice to go out once in a while as a couple, even if just for a quick dinner. We have limited options as far as who we leave Kevin with, and that takes a toll on you.
Sometimes life happens and a date night out just is not in the cards for you. Connecting with your partner is so important to the growth, development, and sustainability of a relationship.
If you have no babysitter for the kids or are trying to save money, you just need to get a bit creative to get the quality time your relationship needs. These fun ways to spend a date night at home will help you make the most of the time you do get to spend together.
Easy Date Night Ideas
Cook a meal together – I feed the boys and when they go to bed, we eat. Since both of our kids have ARFID, it’s nice to cook a meal for me (or us) and not worry about who is going to eat what.
Cuddle up on the couch for a movie – Movie rentals do not even require you leaving the house anymore. A movie night at home after the child goes to sleep is a great frugal date night. Even better you do not have to pay so much for snacks during the movie. And, should you choose, you can have a glass of wine while watching and not have to worry about driving. You can even combine this idea with the one above and do a complete movie night theme. In that link, you’ll see movie ideas and what meals to pair them with.
Have a game night together – My 9-year-old loves board games. And I love that he loves them. But, I have several board games that are for ages 12 or 16 and up, and I’d like to play those once in a while too. If you have board games in the house why not enjoy a game or two. Board games are a great way to spend quality time together and grow more familiar with the way your partner thinks.
Pull out a puzzle – Puzzles are a great way to keep hands busy while you sit and chat about life outside of work and the kids. Now you can even get inexpensive boards to put them on so that you can move it and finish it later. I love working on puzzles because it makes my brain take a break from thinking about life and ‘stuff.’
Try each other’s hobbies – Or not. Having a hobby of your own is good for your relationship but giving your partner’s hobbies a try is also a great way to spend quality time together and build a relationship as you get to know your partner in a whole new way. I don’t think that I want to learn to play to acoustic guitar, but I am happy to sit on the couch and read a book while he practices. It’s more about having alone adult time.
Even if we wanted to, we can’t go anywhere for a while. Might as well make the best of it. Now, how early is too early for bedtime?